|I make it a rule never to ask anyone about
their reproductive life. You will never hear me say, "So when are
you guys going to start having kids?" I just think that's rude to
assume it's any of your business.
My ex's extended family used to ask us this entirely too often, and it was a sore point since we were at odds over having any at all. Even more broadly, consider the areas implicit in the question: aspects of your financial situation, medical issues pertaining to your ability to have children and/or your sex life, etc.
By contrast, Dani has a friend doing IVF right now (in spite of the fact that this goes against her Catholic beliefs... but that's a hypocrisy we'll tackle some other time), and we talk about it every once in a while. However, I always let her bring it up. It isn't my business unless she wants to let me in on it.
The whole issue is entirely too personal an area to feel you can casually probe into someone else's business.
Although if you've had three kids already, then your family and friends should make it their business and have an intervention. I mean, use some condom sense, will ya?!
|Back to the index|